Molly Howes -126 | The Story Behind Her Success with Candy O'Terry

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When something goes wrong between people, that doesn’t have to be the end of the story. There are things you can do to make a repair. You can heal hurt between people. –Molly Howes

For many years, I’ve been swimming in a lap lane with a really kind and wonderful woman named Molly. We’d talk about the temperature of the water, and how we really should be swimming longer and harder. And then one day, she told me that she was an author, and that her new book was being published. I asked what it was about, and instantly knew she’d be perfect for this show. For the last 35 years, Molly Howes, PhD has maintained an independent psychotherapy practice. She’s a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who has witnessed the losses her patients feel when they have been unable to give or receive an apology. Her groundbreaking book is called A Good Apology and is now available world wide. In this interview, Molly gives us her “four steps to make things right” and explains why saying “I’m sorry” is so hard for many of us to do. At a time in our country when pent-up hurt and anger abound, this book gives us all a chance to reach across our differences and make amends. Always honest and thoughtful, Molly shares her own personal story which is woven in loss and a lifelong need to mend things and make them right. No one goes through life unscathed. We’ve all been hurt, and we all need to heal. It may be surprising, but the breaches themselves aren’t the real problem, our inability to fix them is what causes us the most trouble. Says Molly: “An apology is for the other person, but it’s also for you, because it’s the right thing to do.” If you’ve spent years trying to figure out how to apologize for something, or how to heal an old hurt that continues to break your heart, hit that download button. You’ll know exactly what to do in 20 minutes! #clinicalpsychology #Harvard #sorrynotsorry